Signs of Helicopter Parenting: You...
6. Handle your children's social issues by talking it out with the adults who could be responsible.
7. Finish your child's assignments for them and ask teachers for an extra grade.
8. Preach to your child's teachers after class, telling them what they should be doing.
9. Keep your child within your sight at all times when possible.
10. Organise your older child's room, wash and fold your teenager's clothes, even though they are quite capable of doing such tasks themselves.
11. Don't let them take any risks.
12. Don't accept failure in your child.
Why Helicopter Parenting Doesn't Work
Helicopter parents overly shield their children from a huge range of issues. They may go so far as solving the child's problems themselves.
While such parents have the best intentions at heart, the reality is they could be harming their child's development.
Here is how helicopter parenting does not help your child.
● Helicopter parents want to find easy ways to prevent their children from getting stressed, such as by doing their assignments or chores. However, some frustration can be good as it helps your child improve his problem-solving skills. Meanwhile chores can teach your child how to be self-reliant.
● They think they know how to best guide their children's physical activities. However, when it comes to sports and teamwork, too much hand-holding only deprives your child of learning and adapting to new experiences, such as resolving conflicts, cooperating, leading others towards a common goal, and persevering through defeat. They can only learn these skills by experiencing them on their own.
● Some parents strip children of the opportunity to be independent when they keep them by their side all the time. However, doing so only reduces your child's self-confidence, adaptability towards the world’s challenges and may even lead to aggression and/or depression.
● They want to protect their children by not allowing them to take any risks. However, not taking any risks at all can hamper one's mental and physical growth.
● They won't accept the child's mistakes, instead taking over the tasks that their child has to do. However, doing so will only deny your children a chance to learn how to persevere from trial and error. Trial and error allows your children to teach themselves, and eventually, how to navigate the world or resolve issues later in life.