The effects of helicopter parenting on kids: “Academically brilliant but incapable of taking care of themselves”
The Washington Post reports that during her 10 years as dean of freshmen at Stanford University, Lythcott-Haims noticed a disturbing trend among new students. While they were academically brilliant, over the years, more and more of them seemed helpless at adapting to the challenges of the world. The effects of helicopter parenting are damaging to our children.
According to the report: “At the same time, parents were becoming more and more involved in their children’s lives. They talked to their children multiple times a day and swooped in to personally intervene whenever something difficult happened.”
Lythcott-Haims elaborates on her decade-long observations in her book How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success.
She believes that by trying too hard to ensure their kids perform well and by protecting them from hardship, failure and disappointment leaving them unable to understand the meaning of perseverance. Parents in affluent communities have actually set their kids up to fail socially. These efforts from parents work against raising self-reliance children.
In other words, “Such ‘overhelping’ might assist children in developing impressive resumés for college admission, but it also robs them of the chance to learn who they are, what they love and how to adapt and face the challenges in the future.